The Modern House Frau

My good blogfriend Irina posted an interesting piece about the dilemma every modern young lady faces: to be, or not to be (a house frau).  I like Irina and her blog because she has an eerie ability to bring up topics that are immediately relevant to me.  Also, we’re more or less at the same point in our lives except she’s a city girl and I’m a suburban guy.

Her most recent post is immediately relevant because just yesterday my lovely, charming girlfriend went for her first “real” job interview after graduating from school.  She is only half-interested.  Not in the job, but working, period.

She works at a restaurant right now and naturally loathes every minute of it.  And she only does it because she needs money.  That’s why everyone works, right?  But all I need to do is get her trashed and she starts rambling semi-coherently about the fact that all she wants to do is stay at home and have my babies.

First wave feminists are spinning in their graves.

As very clearly expressed by Irina, young women today are guaranteed to be confused.  We raise our daughters to believe that they “can do anything” and we hammer our daughters with career advice and the importance of going to a good school so they can get a job after college just as hard as we hammer our sons.  I have always believed this is foolish, but anyone who reads this blog probably has a good idea of what I think of feminism in general.  This being one of their tenets, it’s natural that I would disagree with it.

But the proof is in the pudding.  Irina is talking about getting a job, even if she were married to a man whose career makes money not an issue, simply out of guilt that she is freeloading.  Man, the world is really fucked up.

If a young woman, such as my girlfriend, wants to sit at home, have babies, and take care of the house, a very large percentage of sheep raised under the fog of feminism who actually believe that bullshit will assume there’s something wrong with her.  Of course, this is basically what women have been doing in every civilized culture for the vast majority of civilization, but let’s ignore that fact for a moment because we’re progressive.

A girl who wants this lifestyle is required to find a man who is willing to support her.  And not just support her until she wears out at 35, 40, but forever.  It is obvious to me that the vast majority of child-bearing-age women secretly, if not openly, desire this lifestyle.  Why wouldn’t they?  Women are born with a fantastic excuse not to work for at least a decade.  Feminists tried to flip this into some kind of career disadvantage but, like the rest of feminism (i.e., sexual “liberation” for girls), fucked it up.

You see, the feminists gave up two things.  First was the ability to control a man with their vaginas.  The vast endless supply of no-strings-attached vagina available to virtually every man makes it a worthless commodity.  The average man is devoid of worthwhile character traits that enable long term marriages based on factors other than steady, available sex.  Unfortunately the average women is equally devoid of these characteristics.  In the past, an average man was satisfied by the steady sex provided by the average woman.  The average man was satisfied enough to go to work every day and give his paycheck to his wife, which, if the woman used her wiles to secure a man with enough earning potential, was enough to give the woman the lifestyle and the babies she always really wanted.  This was a good arrangement.

The second thing feminists gave up was the socially accepted fact that women could go through life without a hard day’s work in their entire lives.  I am not suggesting that motherhood is easy, but it certainly isn’t coal mining or software engineering.  Aside from the physical work they were exempt from (and even today, they still are because they are biologically inferior and incapable of mining coal), they were exempt from another gigantic burden men have shouldered since the dawn of man: total, absolute responsibility for their families.  If the man fucks up and loses his job, his family starves.  This is something that men are born accepting, and we’re equal to the task.  In the right circumstances women rise to the occasion (i.e., their husband dies), but it takes a tremendous toll on the woman and most women don’t do a very good job.  And I would add that only in modern civilization do women even have the capacity to make ends meet, because we’ve invented jobs that girls can do.  In the bad old days, if the man dies, the field goes unplowed and the family starves.  I think it’s important to remember these facts.

These days, it’s not enough for a woman to keep a man sexed up.  Modern men have greater expectations because pussy is free, and he can go get younger snatch at any time.  In order for a woman with her sights set on house frau status to keep a man from kicking her out of his Westchester condo in exchange for a younger more attractive tenant, she has to be spectacular in other ways.

It works both ways.  Now that women are liberated, the average woman can support herself.  If she has babies things are more complicated, but fortunately for them the courts side in their favor and they can still get child support.  Ignoring the fact that the single largest characteristic among the poverty demographic is single mother status (not race or education level as most people like to believe), women are raised to believe very firmly that they don’t need a man, and it’s basically true.

This means that the average man has to do more than just provide an average paycheck.  He has to be spectacular in other ways to keep a woman from deciding she’s sick of having sex with him or that she can do better, and then taking him to the cleaners for alimony at court (and winning, of course).

Do you see what’s happened here?  The only thing feminism has done is raise the bar for both men and women, and guess what?  That bar is just too high for about half of all couples.  The man is not good enough, and the woman is not good enough.  Two average people just can’t stay happily married any more because our culture has made it impossible.  It’s too tempting to expect more out of their partner.

So what does it take for a woman to be a house frau?  If my girlfriend wants me to support her while our children are young, she’ll have to prove to me that it’s in my best interests to do so.  I have modern expectations because I’m a modern man.

One of my absolute requirements is that she has a job prior to assuming House Frau status.  I am not picky.  She already has a job (as a waitress).  I want her to have some kind of office job.  I don’t care how much money she makes (although I do have a kind of soft minimum under which I can’t take it seriously enough to count it, and waitressing doesn’t cut it).

The reason?  Simple.  It’s far too tempting, as a man, especially as a man whose wife doesn’t work, to develop an attitude.  The attitude is, “well, I make all the money, so I’m above you.”  This attitude is deadly.  Second, since she lives with me and I currently pay all the bills, I want her to contribute.  She needs to have a stake in our livelihood.  Third, I want the money.  I make enough to keep the house up and spend big ($1000+) only once every couple of months.  I can currently afford all of our bills entirely on my own (which, by the way, is something most DINK couples completely overlook which makes money really tight once junior arrives and she stops working for months or years – if the man’s salary is not enough for upkeep, the woman has to work, which is the worst possible situation).  If I can afford all of our bills on my own, it means 100% of her salary is icing on the cake and can be used entirely for leisure, home improvement, saving for the baby, etc.

I also want her to work because I need her to understand what I go through.  This is an extremely important thing, which is why I am insistent that she works in a corporate/office environment.  A lot of women who don’t work, or work in fake environments (restaurants, retail, etc), have no understanding of what their husbands actually do for a living.  My girlfriend makes an effort to talk to me about what I do, and she listens to me when I talk about office politics, etc., but she won’t really have an appreciation for it until she’s involved.  If she does it for at least a year or two, she’ll have more respect for me, and what my job sometimes does to my moods, and will be less likely to assume that my job is easy.  She won’t get the attitude that all I really do is show up and get a large paycheck.  Women who are under this assumption are more likely to nag their husbands to do other things when they get home from work or on weekends, not ever understanding that work sucks.

Finally, it will give her a much grander appreciation for the lifestyle I provide when I allow her to be a house frau and raise my children the right way while I continue to work for our living, the same way I have worked since 22 and will work until 72.  She will also be more likely to put effort into really keeping up the house (keeping it clean, making dinner, doing laundry) because all of these tasks are preferable to working for a living in the world of men for most girls, because these tasks are fucking easy and they don’t have a boss telling them what to do and they can’t get fired.

I will not marry a girl who isn’t working, but I will also not marry a girl who wants to work when our children are young.  Her pussy isn’t enough to make me want to marry her – she can thank the feminists for that.  I want to see that she has the ability to get a job, work it, and then come to the conclusion that work blows and she’d rather stay home and have babies.  That way, when I come home after a long day of putting up with assholes or thinking really hard as my job generally requires, she’ll give me my robe, my slippers, my pipe, and a blowjob without questioning whether my contribution to the household and our lifestyle deserves some respect.  And when I thank her for the dinner, help her with the dishes, and give her a mindblowing, multiorgasmic epic bang before bed, I’ll have repaid her respect with my own.

And guess what?  We won’t get divorced.  Not at 29, not at 39, not at 49.

Girls: pay attention.  We expect just as much out of you as you expect out of us.  And if you think it’s hard to find a decent man, it is.  Think back to the good old days when all it took was a pussy and a cookbook, and rethink whether or not you like the idea of feminism.

IMVU is gross

I am really sick of the IMVU ads on every website on the internet.  Every single ad shows a very creepy ambigously hentai skank who appears to be purposely drawn to look 13 wearing a very bizarre outfit that looks like softcore BSDM gear but always, always shows navel.

This website is hoping hundreds of thousands of bored horny male internet geeks will create avatars hoping to meet these girls in their ads, but as we all know, these girls are either decoys from How to Catch a Predator, men pretending to be girls, or old overweight cat women who use the internet to project a body they neither ever did have nor ever could have.

The whole thing is tasteless and qualifies as first class internet polution.

Oh, also, Zwinky sucks too.